Day 22: Trial Separation Recap
Welcome to Day 22—and the final week!—of the February Phone Breakup. (Whoah – we’re almost there!)
Last week we focused on strengthening our attention spans and becoming more present. This week, we’re going to work on synthesizing everything we’ve done and experimented with over the course of our time together, so that you finish the month with a solid plan in place.
Today’s goal is simple.
First, I want to give you a bit more time to reflect on what you experienced this weekend when you took a break from your phone (and to reflect on what you’ve experienced so far in general). So take a few minutes today to look through, respond, and add to the comments on last night’s post.
Second, I want to share something important with you, which may help you if you feel like your relationship with your phone isn’t “perfect:”
Perfection Isn’t the Point
In fact, it’s highly likely that your relationship with your phone will never feel perfect. That's not me being pessimistic; it's simply true. No relationship is ever perfect, and our phones have been deliberately designed to make healthy relationships extremely difficult to maintain. It’s inevitable that we’ll sometimes lose our way. And that’s okay. Instead of aiming for perfection, our goal is to train ourselves to notice when we begin to drift back to our old habits, and to use the tools and techniques we’ve worked on together to gently get ourselves back on track. Every time we do so, we're succeeding.
“It’s not like these changes have unlocked an extra twenty-four hours in the day for me, during which I’ve suddenly become the perfect mother, spouse, recreational athlete, and world-class writer. Rather, with fewer clickable distractions, I feel confident that I am doing the most with the time I do have.” —Vanessa
To scrolling less, living more, and being kind to ourselves,
PS:
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Catherine will be popping in once a day to read through and respond to your comments. You may also hear from other members of the team, Maryana and Laura, who are helping with logistics.